Happy Thanksgiving :)

Women are always under the impression that men love them more than they really do.
 -The Painted Veil

Be soft.  Do not let the world make you hard.  Do not let the pain make you hate.  Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness.  Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.

we all die. the goal isn't to live forever, it is to create something that will.

Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish. -John Jakes

If you're reading this...congratulations, you're alive. If that's not something to smile about, then I don't know what is.

Stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone ought to be.
-Elizabeth Gilbert

Does it break my heart? Of course, every moment of every day into more pieces than my heart was made of. I never thought of myself as quiet, much less silent. I never thought about things at all. Everything changed, and that distance wedged itself between me and my happiness wasn't the world, and it wasn't the bombs and burning buildings, it was me and my thinking, the cancer of never letting go. Is ignorance bliss? I don't know, but it's so painful to think, and tell me, what did thinking ever do for me? To what place did thinking ever bring me? I think and I think and I think. I've thought myself out of happiness a million times, but never once into it.

Just once I want to fall in love and not have it hurt so bad in the end. Actually can I just have a love that doesn't end?  Or is there no such thing?
-Allison Mosher

Don't give up, okay? I know you've been hurt, I know how it feels. Believe me, I do. But the feeling will pass. The tears will stop falling. Your heart will heal itself. I promise you it will, so hold on. Don't let go, don't lose hope because I promise you'll find someone who will treat you right the way he never did. Someone who will never ever leave you, the way he did. He'll be worth the wait, so hang in there because I love you and I want you to be happy.

I'm content with losing.

Every update will have a song title,
it's good to be back.

It’s laughing with your friend at a time when you shouldn’t. It’s the sweat in your palms wanting to know someone you see and the pit in your stomach when they actually see you. It’s being touched by hands that aren’t your own. It’s the thrill of an escape that almost wasn’t. It’s the embarrassment you feel, naked for the first time. It’s helping a friend find something they lost. It’s a smile, a joke, a song. It’s what someone does that they like doing. It’s what someone does that they like remembering. It’s the thinking of things you may never do and the doing of things you may never have thought. It’s the road ahead and the road behind. It’s the first step and the last and every one in between, because they all make up the good life.-The Good Life

You have the Answer.  Just get quiet enough to hear it.  -Pat Obuchowski

I believe in the sun even when its not shining, in love even when I'm alone and in God even when He is silent. -Written on a basement wall in Nazi Germany, where a Jewish refugee had been hiding from agents of the Holocaust

Everything you do is triggered by an emotion of either desire or fear.— Brian Tracy

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. –Epicurus

Go be that starving Artist you’re afraid to be. Open up that journal and get poetic finally. Volunteer. Suck it up and travel. You were not born here to work and pay taxes. You were put here to be part of a vast organism to explore and create. Stop putting it off. The world has much more to offer than what’s on 15 televisions at TGI Fridays. Take pictures. Scare people. Shake up the scene. Be the change you want to see in the world. You’ll thank yourself for it.-Jason Mraz

time was passing like a hand waving from a train i wanted to be on. i hope you never think about anything as much as i think about you. -jonathan safran foer

Sometimes in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken. Sometimes, you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what. Maybe you’ll find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding, but there’s also that chance that the one person you can count on for a lifetime the one person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along.-Bride Wars

Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.  -Dalai Lama

When you are looking to meet someone, you are looking to settle. Because you are not looking for someone, you are looking for anyone — Lauren Conrad

I must learn to love the fool in me - the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled masterful tyrant whom I also harbor and who would rob me of human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my fool.— Theodore Isaac Rubin 

There are better things ahead than any we leave behind.
-C.S. Lewis

There is no knowledge without emotion. We may be aware of a truth, yet until we have felt it’s force, it’s not ours. To the cognition of the brain must be added the experience of the soul.
-Arnold Bennett


Love cannot survive if you just give scraps of yourself, scraps of your time, and scraps of your thoughts.
-Mary O’Hara

If there is no passion in your life, then have you ever really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you, and you will find that great things will happen for you, to you, and because of you.
-T. Alan Armstrong

hmm, so a few things have happened since i last updated.  my ex came back in my life, he told me he wanted to marry me.  but we are, of course, fighting again so i think that's pretty much over.  i'm a senior now.  my cell phone broke.  i got in a car accident, my brand new car is wrecked, and i have a sprained spine/neck, much like a sprained ankle - but you can't physically see it.  so i have been going to a chiropractor for a 2-week plan, she is starting treatment on me tomorrow which i am scared about, because for the past 2 days i've just been doing diathermy.
i think that's about it...update time!

1.     Girls were born knowing how destructive the truth could be.  They learned to hold it in, tamp it down, like gunpowder in an old fashioned gun. Then it exploded in your face, on a November day in the rain.
— Janet Fitch

2.     I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.
-Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche

3.       If we listened to our intellect we’d never have a love affair. We’d never have a friendship. We’d never go in business because we’d be cynical: “It’s gonna go wrong.” Or “She’s going to hurt me.” Or, “I’ve had a couple of bad love affairs, so therefore …” Well, that’s nonsense. You’re going to miss life. You’ve got to jump off the cliff all the time and build your wings on the way down.
-Ray Bradbury

4.       It's no good pretending that any relationship has a future if your record collections disagree violently or if your favorite films wouldn't even speak to each other if they met at a party.
— Nick Hornby

5.       I don't like being single, no. I live this fantastic life, full of all these magical things, and at the end of the day all I want to do is pick up my phone and share it with someone. The other day I'd sold a million records in the U.S. and I didn't have anyone to tell. It was actually a really lonely moment.
-Katy Perry

6.       Each relationship between two persons is absolutely unique. That is why you cannot love two people the same. It simply is not possible. You love each person differently because of who they are and the uniqueness that they draw out of you.-William P. Young, The Shack

7.       what I'm really looking for, is not something I can articulate. It's nonverbal: I need love. I need the thing that happens when your brain shuts off and your heart turns on. And I know it's around me somewhere, but I just can't feel it.— Elizabeth Wurtzel

8.       You know what I think hurts the most? The feeling of being replaced. It’s like no matter what you did, it wasn’t enough. And no matter what you do to try and capture their heart again, doesn’t seem to work. And you’re suddenly left thinking that you’ll never be enough. And a sudden sadness captures your heart that never really leaves. — JoAnne Golden

9.       Before you can inspire with emotion, you must be swamped with it yourself. Before you can move their tears, your own must flow. To convince them, you must yourself believe.
-Winston Churchill

10.   Risk-taking, trust, and serendipity are the key ingredients of joy. Without risk, nothing new ever happens. Without trust, fear creeps in. Without serendipity, there are no surprises.
-Rita Golden Gelman


11.   You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose." - Jo Courdert